16 and Pregnant, abstinence, Carson Daly, Losing It, marriage, Marybeth Hicks, MTV, Music Television, music videos, My First, Patricia Heaton, sex, sex before marriage, Teen Mom, teenage sex, The Real World, The Washington Times, Total Request Live, TRL, virginity, virgins
I remember a time long ago when the Music Television (MTV) network actually played music videos. Do you remember those days? I used to watch when my parents weren’t looking. And, yes, I admit I used to think Total Request Live (TRL) was super cool! My friends and I were all blindsided when we learned Carson Daly was like 42 years old. We were duped!
But over the years, something has happened to MTV. Something has changed. The network that revolutionized the music industry by fusing popular music, video and television is simply different. Slowly but surely, Music Television stopped playing music videos.
It started with a crude cartoon that I wasn’t allowed to watch, Beavis and Butthead. And even when I did end up watching, I didn’t find it funny. Mostly I was just annoyed by all my male friends (and my cousin, Dan) mimicking that hideous laugh all day long.
Then The Real World came along. You know, “the true story… of seven strangers… picked to live in a house…work together and have their lives taped… to find out what happens… when people stop being polite… and start getting real.” Apparently “getting real” means drinking until you can’t speak every night and then waking up naked by the hot tub every morning. Yep, that’s a regular Tuesday night for me! The show is in its 27th season. Yes, you heard me right. TWENTY SEVEN.
The shows only got worse. A raunchy dating show called Singled Out. An irresponsible and disgusting prank show called Jackass. A sex-fest dating contest called A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila (A.K.A. A Shot at Getting an STD).
And that brings us to today. There’s the show that has made a mockery of my home state, Jersey Shore. I’d like to set the record straight once and for all: The vast majority of New Jersey residents are super cool. We don’t fake bake every afternoon. We don’t use three pounds of hair product each morning. And we don’t get drunk every night and have sex with whatever moves.
And don’t even get me started on that lovely show, 16 and Pregnant.
Marybeth Hicks of The Washington Times said it best: “I have joked for years that MTV is destroying civilization as we know it. Then, the network gave us Jersey Shore, and proved my joke wasn’t funny, it was true. Now, I’m convinced the people at MTV actually sit around a conference table and ponder the question: How can we exploit and corrupt the innocence and morality of an entire generation?”
This reaction from Hicks comes after a recent casting call was posted by MTV. The new show? It’s called My First. No, it’s not about a first car. It’s not about a first house, a first job, or a first record. It’s not even about a first love. It’s about… well… I’ll let you read the casting notice for yourself.
Do you want to take things to the next level? Like, are you ready to hand over your V card? Or do you have a friend who is ready to lose it?
Young adulthood is a time for exploration. New relationships, fresh experiences and sexual firsts…
Now MTV is looking to frankly capture that journey in a new series called My First… We’re looking for adults who are ready to go all the way. Let MTV come along on your journey… as you try to lose your virginity!
When I first read this, I can’t say I was surprised. I can’t say my jaw hit the floor, because the truth is I expect it. The producers of MTV have proven their lack of morals and their complete disregard for humanity. Why should I expect anything more?
But wait! In a moment of possible redemption, MTV made an important addition to the casting notice:
Note: We will be filming whether or not you accomplish this goal… but NOT the act itself. Duh.
Wow. Those producers are such angels.
Though set to run through May 28th, the casting notice was taken down early, perhaps due to the resulting outrage that spilled across the Internet. This “fame-for-sex” casting call wasn’t welcome with open arms. Thousands blogged, tweeted and emailed their sheer disgust at MTV’s proposition. Some celebrities even joined the fight. Patricia Heaton called it “so incredibly depressing.”
An MTV rep told FOX411’s Pop Tarts column: “This was a preliminary casting notice, and we’re not moving forward with a pilot.”
Well, thank God.
But this small victory isn’t enough. So MTV decided not to pay kids to get drunk and lose their virginity… this time. So what? They’ll come up with something else. Something worse. Something that will actually make our jaws hit the floor. And by then, it may be too late. We may lose an entire generation to the over-hyped, over-sexed, over-funded media.
I don’t know how many of my readers are virgins. I don’t know how many of my readers are choosing — regardless of past choices — to abstain from sex until marriage. But, even if there is just one reader holding to these beliefs, I want to tell you something:
I am so proud of you.
It’s not easy. Everywhere you turn there is sex. In films, on the radio, on television, in books, on billboards, on the Internet… it’s hard to escape the constant storm of sex. The years once reserved for innocence are becoming fewer and fewer.
And it breaks my heart.
Because I want more.
For me. For my school-aged niece and nephew. For my teenage cousins. For my friends.
I want more.
I want relationships that matter. I want love that lasts. I want fidelity in marriage. I want it all, I suppose.
But I’m just a single gal living in the Nation’s capital, sending my heartfelt thoughts out to the blogosphere. I can’t compete with the MTVs of the world. I can’t compete with the big guns in entertainment, music, television, pornography. I just can’t do it.
But maybe I can make a difference in one life. In one reader. In one confused soul wondering if sex is the answer, wondering if MTV is right — that “young adulthood is a time for exploration… (for) sexual firsts.”
If you’re reading this, I want to tell you that you’re worth more. No matter what MTV tells you, you are worth more. You were created by a loving God. You are here for a purpose. And sex? It’s a beautiful gift meant to share with one person, not to flaunt on television in a quest for short-lived fame.
*Photo credits: MTV