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“Women are crazy.”
“Women are weird.”
“I will never understand women!”
You may have heard these statements before, often from the mouths of men. These statements are generalizations, stereotypes. They’re clearly an exaggeration — frankly, flat-out lies.
And then we meet Anita Chakraburtty, a Sydney woman who has her entire wedding planned for April 7, 2013. The dress, the location, the rings. You name it. She’s just missing one little thing: a groom.
Watch Australia’s Sunrise program’s news coverage of this mind-boggling story here:
When my friend Sarah shared this story with me (rightfully convinced it was blogworthy), I died laughing. And then found myself saying the exact statements I once claimed as blasphemy:
“Women are crazy.”
“Women are weird.”
“I will never understand women!” (and I am one!)
This 42-year-old astrologist is convinced that the planets will align and she will find her future husband in October or November of this year. Anita has set the wedding date, bought her dress, and chosen the ceremony location and even the decor of the house she and her future hubbie will live in.
After hearing Anita’s story, do you also find yourself saying, Women are crazy?
Because guess what? You might be just as crazy as Anita.
Ever heard of Pinterest? It’s an enormously popular online bulletin board with 23 million users (up from one million just a year ago!). Pinterest is meant to act as a literal showcase of things you love, want or aspire to be. If you see something online that you like, you simply “pin it” to your personally organized boards. Then these items are socialized by sharing, re-pinning and other social-media-voodoo trickery. According to a report by The Today Show, “a quick review of the site reveals that recipes, wedding planning, fashion and home décor are among the most prevalent categories.”
And the interesting thing about the thousands upon thousands of “wedding boards” on Pinterest? A large percentage of these women are not even engaged yet. Some — (Lord, help us) — are not even dating!
Yet, like Anita, they plan.
Wedding cake? Check.
Wedding rings? Check.
Reception table centerpieces? Check.
Do-it-yourself wedding invitations? Check.
Recycled light bulb vases? Check.
And the list goes on and on and on. Each board has photo after photo pinned up for all to see. Every details is covered, from wedding gowns to guest seating charts, from boutonnières for the groomsmen to the “just married” sign on the getaway car. It’s all planned. No input from the future husband needed. He just shows up with his wallet, I guess.
And you’re telling me Anita is crazy?
Now, I’ll be honest with you all — I’m a planner. I love weddings. I love flowers. I love decorations. But when I see these Pinterest boards, nausea quickly sets in. These girls are making weddings out to be something they’re simply not meant to be. Weddings are not about:
- showing off
- being the “most creative” or the “most unique”
- proving you’re a do-it-yourself craft queen
- having the “it” gown or “it” diamonds
- looking the most beautiful
- planning every detail and letting your future groom just step in
Anita! Pinterest ladies! Listen to me! A wedding is special, yes. But it’s just one day of the rest of your life. More important than planning that one day is making sure you are choosing the right man to marry — someone you love, someone who loves you, someone who shares your values, faith and life goals.
Please. I beg of you. Don’t spend time planning your wedding now. It’s silly and — no matter how many re-pins and “likes” you get on Pinterest — it makes you look like a complete weirdo. And God forbid your future mate sees that board while you’re dating. Can you say, major red flag?!
Instead of choosing flowers and ring bearer pillows and bridesmaid dresses, spend time living your life now. Work hard, grow in your faith, cultivate relationships (both romantic and otherwise). I have to believe the rest will fall into place.
And then, when the day of your engagement comes, sit down with your future husband and decide what you both want for your wedding day. And enjoy that new adventure together.
~Ruth
P.S. To watch the above video on YouTube, click here.
P.P.S. This is my 100th post! Whoop whoop!
Brittany said:
Thank you for this. I am one of the few women I know that has never really given much thought to my wedding. Sure, when I am at a wedding, I think “that’s cute” or “why in the world would they do that” but the thought of planning an event which may or may not take place seems silly.
Ruth Rutherford said:
Glad you liked it. I also find it eerie when people pre-plan funerals… but at least we KNOW we’ll all die one day! Like you said, a wedding may or may not happen.
Oooh, I’m starting a funeral board on Pinterest. I hope this catches on!
Jess said:
hilarious. i love your sense of humor.
haileyjw said:
Congrats on 100 posts! I completely agree with you about the illusory lives people make up for themselves on things like Pintrest. More are more it seems the lives we’re all trying to lead here, aren’t real. Thanks for the great post!
Ruth Rutherford said:
“More are more it seems the lives we’re all trying to lead here, aren’t real.” Isn’t that the truth?! I’d prefer if their Pinterest boards were just photos of themselves with friends and family, on various travels, at various occasions. At least then we’d know these things ACTUALLY happened!
Thanks for reading!
Lore Ferguson (@loreferguson) said:
Win.
Ruth Rutherford said:
Cassy said:
Oh goodness. I totally agree with your point of view. My husband and I decided to pretty much get married on a whim (we were engaged for awhile), and we seriously had one week to plan everything… which wasn’t much. We got married in a friend’s backyard, they picked flowers and decorated bushes that we got married in front of, and for lighting we just had tiki torches. haha Low budget and absolutely perfect.
Ruth Rutherford said:
Your wedding sounds heavenly! At least your focus was in the right place… A day to commit to one another as man and wife, in front of close family and friends. Seems all the other stuff (as much as I love some of it!) can just fuzzy up the process. Thanks for sharing!
Cassy said:
Definitely. It seems too stressful and money was holding us back from just committing to each other. We just didn’t seem right to us. I felt like I was being pressured into a huge ceremony because of everyone else wanting to go and I was like ugh, forget it. They will get over. And just eloped. haha
Violet said:
Congrats on your 100th post, Ruth! You’re right — seems that each wedding is always trying to outdo the one before and for some, the unmet expectations of the day and quickly passing hype inevitably leads to post-nuptial depression. “The Conscious Bride” by Sheryl Paul takes a deeper look into this…
Ruth Rutherford said:
Thanks, Violet! I can only imagine if these brides don’t get the positive feedback after their wedding that they so clearly long for… Depression for sure! I haven’t read this book, but I just looked it up on Amazon. LOVE the subtitle: “How to Prepare Emotionally, Practically and Spiritually for Meaningful and Joyous Wedding.” I’ll have to check this out! (WHEN I get engaged, of course.)
To anyone who’s actually planning a real wedding with a real groom, here’s a link to the book: http://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Brides-Wedding-Planner-Sheryl/dp/1572243457
Girdie Fae said:
I actually used that book all through my wedding planning, and yes! It is a great book. However, I still ended up disappointed after everything was said and done…not because the decor wasn’t Exactly right (it was) or the fact that they served the wedding cake before we even got there (which just made me laugh and shake my head), but, well, I’m not even sure I could say why. But I second and third this post! The biggest lie ever propagated about weddings: “It’s all bout YOU.” (Well, and then there’s the “happily ever after” myth, too, that has nothing to do with real life post-wedding).
Ruth Rutherford said:
Um… Girdie… they served the CAKE before you GOT THERE?! That might make even me go all Bridezilla on everyone! Ha!
You couldn’t have said it better: “The biggest lie ever propagated about weddings: ‘It’s all about YOU.’ ” This is so great to hear from someone who has been there. Perhaps if we go INTO the process with different expectations and goals, we won’t be so disappointed afterward? I’m hoping I can follow these guidelines when I get married one day… but for now, I’m on board!
Thanks for reading!
Ells said:
Oh Girdie, your comment made me feel better! I was disappointed after our big wedding ceremony too because of details like yours (how did we forget to take bride-and-groom-only photos?!), and it has left a sour note lingering in the air. We also had a legal wedding the same day, wearing sweaters and jeans with just 30 friends and family. It was all in a language that none of us spoke (we were military in Germany), and we were married before we knew it, happy and focused only on each other with zero other details to think about.
Thank you.
Elis Alves said:
LOVE your post, Ruth! And completely agree with you!
Now, someone looking at my pinterest will think I am a little bit off but the truth is, I’m a wedding photographer and my brides frequently ask me for ideas, cute DIYs etc and I have to have some. In any case, I always tell my brides what you mentioned in the blog: your wedding is only that, just a day. The best thing is being able to share the rest of your life together. Your wedding is NOT your marriage! :c) THanks for posting this! :c) Have a great week!
Ruth Rutherford said:
Love it! I knew when I posted this I might make some “enemies,” because I know so many people that have wedding boards on Pinterest! I’m not judging all of you. Honestly! I know many of you are engaged, some are photographers and event planners, some just love flowers… I get it! I’m really speaking to the MANY gals who truly are a little “off” in their idealistic dreams of an 8-hour wedding extravaganza to go down in history as the best wedding of all time. You know what I mean.
Thanks so much for reading… and for the GREAT advice you give your clients! (Personally, I think the BEST money you can spend on your wedding is on the photographer. It’s important to capture the commitment you made, so you can look back over the years and remember WHY it was so important.)
Jennifer said:
I honestly thought I was the only one who DIDN’T have her wedding planned since birth!!! I have friends who have entire notebooks of ideas/pictures blah and I had college roommates who SUBSCRIBED to BRIDE magazine just because…they weren’t dating anyone….I sometimes wondered if my lack of love of planning meant it wasn’t going to happen lol That being said I DO have a <3 board on pintrest that has exactly 5 pins of things I think are cute….this took place in the past year after some hopeful happenings ha ha …speaking of, I hit DC tomorrow! wish me luck! =) CONGRATS on 100!
Emily McFarlan Miller said:
And I thought I was the only one who hadn’t dreamed of my perfect wedding day my whole life! I always liked looking at the dreamy pictures in wedding magazines while drinking coffee at Starbucks, but I never wanted to plan the thing. It never was going to be my wedding, anyway. It was our wedding. And in the meantime, I had some life to live.
Take it from this married lady, it WILL all fall in place. Just trust God (maybe not The Universe). And get out there and live. Wonderful, wonderful advice, Ruth!
Emily McFarlan Miller said:
Also, has anybody read “The Secret,” that book Oprah got behind maybe five years ago? I chased it down at the height of the craze (seriously, it was sold out at every bookstore) because a couple of my friends had asked me about it. Anita just word-for-word read you the whole book: You focus your attention on the one thing you want — tune to its radio frequency, if you will — and The Universe will bring it to you. Anyway. I was curious if anybody else had noticed that. Just another interesting religion angle.
Ruth Rutherford said:
I only ever read an excerpt of “The Secret,” and really, it was everything you described. I was NOT a fan. Poor Oprah touted it like it was the answer to the world’s problems. But, I disagree with the premise. The Universe will bring nothing to me. God created The Universe, so let’s put this into perspective! But, still interested to hear if anyone agrees / disagrees…
Ruth Rutherford said:
Love the balance here. Yes, it’s okay to think certain things are pretty for a wedding, or you might like a certain dress one day. But to go ahead and PLAN the whole thing is just plain OFF. Perspective, folks!
I am trusting God and living the life he gave me to live. Thanks so much for the reminder, and for reading!
Ruth Rutherford said:
Whoa. SUBSCRIBING to a BRIDAL magazine when you’re not engaged? That is super, super weird! I can totally feel your guilt seeping through the Internet while you type about your love board. Tsk, tsk, tsk. Hahaha! Kidding! No judgment zone!
Thanks, as always, for reading / commenting! HAVE FUN IN MY CITY!!!
Marilyn said:
I can’t imagine planning the whole wedding without the groom because more than likely he would want some things changed and then you have a frustrated bride. Also, the day is not ALL about the bride so it should be planned together. That said I do like to see ideas (although not on Pintrest, I’m not a fan) and tuck them away in my brain for if/when that day comes. Totally agree with you about focusing on the rest of your life instead of one day. Congrats on the 100th post!!
Ruth Rutherford said:
Thanks Marilyn!
I like “ideas” too. I’m all about noticing the pretty things around me (or making fun of the weird things)… and storing it away in my brain for future use. In theory, that could be what Pinterest is for — storing ideas. But it has morphed into something else — some showcase of everything we “want.” Not a fan either…
Gary said:
In my hunble opinion – If you are spending more time planning your wedding than you do planning your marriage – you are missing the point…
Ruth Rutherford said:
Well said!
Nicole said:
I remember reading a Dear Abby column about a priest who had given up on officiating wedding ceremonies because too many couples were fixated more on the limos, cake, flowers, etc. than tithing to the church for performing the ceremony. Wouldn’t it be nice to see a show that was called “Say Yes to the Church” instead of a dress? Society today makes it challenging to remember what the focus of our lives needs to be – always – and admit that I can be just as guilty.
Great column – lots to think about today.
Ruth Rutherford said:
Wow, that priest has some balls… err… Bibles. But, I love his outlook! He was so fed up with the “competition” for the best wedding. It is seriously getting out of control.
And, yes, sadly I can be just as guilty. Just last night I was helping a friend plan her wedding and found myself taking MENTAL NOTES of things I want for my wedding. Oh dear. I’m a walking contradiction.
Thanks for reading!
Christina @ Christina's Adventures said:
Found this on Nesting Place – SO needed & important in this “Pinterest Age”. I’m already married, but share the same knot in my stomach when I see women so obsessed with the WEDDING (which lasts a few hours) and very little time on the MARRIAGE (which should last the rest of your life).
Ruth Rutherford said:
Wow, thanks Christina. GREAT ADVICE to hear from a married gal. Every time I go to a wedding, I look at the bride toward the end of the reception and I can just see the look of “Wow, it’s already over?!” in her eyes. The years of planning and picking and choosing… and that’s it. Definitely puts it into perspective, eh?
Thanks so much for stopping by!!!
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Rachel said:
Agreeing on all accounts! My husband has said for years “If only people would spend as much time and money and energy on the MARRIAGE as they do their wedding day…”. That’s where it all counts. Yes, it’s a great day but after they’ve got their catch, well…. it all goes somewhere in a handbasket.
Ruth Rutherford said:
Your husband is a wise man. Can you imagine the HOURS / DAYS / MONTHS / YEARS we spend planning the smallest details of our weddings… being put to actually WORKING on our marriages? Communicating, spending time together, loving each other… Wow. It could go a long, long way.
Thanks for reading!
Brittany W. said:
It sounds crazy… but is it? I’ve been learning a lot lately about preparing for the blessings God has in store, about believing that I (as God’s wonderful child) deserve the desires of my heart and that God’s blessings will be greater than I ever imagined them to be. And you know what, it works. Great blessings have come my way since I began preparing to be blessed, since I started believing I deserved the desires of my heart…
It’s sad that for so long I was caught up in the idea that I don’t deserve something unless I earn it… and it’s hard to imagine that I deserve amazing things from God when I know I’m NOT perfect. Matthew 6:26 “Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?” That’s right… we deserve God’s blessings!
Yes… planning a beautiful wedding on pinterest may look crazy to some, but when the beautiful wedding represents the desire to have a loving husband, a family, and to live happily ever after… I say that’s a step of faith. Women deserve to live happily ever after and I’m done apologizing for wanting a loving, committed husband, a family, and a beautiful home we can grow old in… I’m not crazy. I am a woman. I am different than a man. I am thankful to the equal rights and equal pay that the feminist movement brought us, but it’s a shame that the feminist movement doesn’t celebrate the differences between a woman and a man and we are called crazy for acting like women, instead of acting like men.
Ruth Rutherford said:
I think we actually agree with one another in many areas, Brittany. I’m in the same boat as you, hoping and praying for the husband and family I’ve dreamed of. These are good aspirations to have.
But, at least for me, I think that just because we want something that is good, doesn’t mean it’s healthy dwell on it. The problem isn’t the Pinterest wedding boards. They’re pretty boards with lots of great ideas. The problem, as I see it, is the obsession with “things,” with competing with others to have the “best.” It’s not healthy and it can only lead to disappointment. And for most it takes away from the purpose of the day — committing to another in marriage. (You mention that, to you, your board represents that commitment… which is wonderful.)
Perhaps this is another discussion for another post, but I think where we essentially disagree has to do with the word “deserve.” Just because God gives to us (and feeds the sparrow), doesn’t mean we deserve any of it. It only proves he’s more generous and loving than we could ever imagine. Every gift from God is just that — a gift. A wedding? Babies? I’m not entitled to any of these things. In his word, God promises blessings, yes. But I can’t define what those blessings are based on what I want. I’m sure I’m opening a whole can of worms here… but just thought I’d throw out some food for thought.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Brittany W. said:
I agree and let the record show I am not defending all pinterest boards.
We should live for God and not things. But I want to expand on my “deserving of blessings” revelation because it is tied to so many things.
God made each of us unique and He knows everything about us, including the desires of our hearts. “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass. (Psalm 37:4,5) Two things here, we must put God first and trust in Him. Second, the blessings we receive are actually made for us because God already knows the desires of our hearts. If you always dreamed of being a writer, would God give you a dream job racing cars?
So the two are tied together… our dreams and our blessings. “A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.” (Proverbs 16:9) Ultimately we cannot know how, when, where, or what the blessing will be exactly, but we can know that the blessing will fulfill the desires of our hearts, our dreams, our hopes, our passions. The blessing will be perfect for us and better than we expected. The catch, we just have to be open to receiving the blessings.
And this is the point where my feelings of unworthiness were keeping me from receiving the blessings. We must be ready, willing, and prepared to receive the blessings. In chapter 3 of second Kings, there is an important story about preparing for God’s blessings. There was a drought and the people were in desperate need of rain. The prophet Elijah told the people to dig ditches with no rain clouds in sight. Sure they could pray for rain, but to dig ditches in the middle of a drought, to prepare for the blessings, that is faith and trust in God. And the most amazing part… the bigger the ditches, the bigger the blessing received.
So when I believed worldly untruths like, “You’re not good enough, you didn’t work hard enough, you don’t deserve that,” I was only keeping myself from receiving God’s blessings. God loves me. God thinks I am worthy of His blessings. And when I changed my thoughts, when I trusted in God and I believed I deserved every blessing He was prepared to give me, when I dreamed big and dug ditches for blessings… the rain came. God is a BIG God. Sometimes we sell ourselves short by not dreaming BIG enough.
P.S. Thanks for letting me share.
Christa said:
My husband and I have just been talking about this same thing. My oldest girls both have pinterests with “the day I say I do” boards. It’s cute and good fun, but I remind them often it’s not about day 1 but about every day after that! My man and I have been so blessed to have a beautiful family(8 kids in 16 years:) And I can say our wedding day was NOT the best day of our marriage! I honestly hardly remember it!!
Ruth Rutherford said:
Phew! 8 kids! You go, girl!
That’s great that you’re reminding your daughters about the bigger picture — the marriage. It’s only natural for girls to like pretty things. I could go on and on about what I like — daffodils, lace gowns, candles… But it’s all about perspective. Your kids have great role models. I’m sure they’ll be okay.
Love the HOPE in your last statement! “I can say our wedding day was NOT the best day of our marriage!” That’s what I’m hoping for — a great, fun wedding, yes… but a lifetime of “even better” days.
Thanks, Christa!
Jeanette said:
While I believe that having an entire wedding planned and paid for is absurd, I DO believe in research and pre-planning. How do you know what you want/like if you’ve never looked? I would think it would be very stressful to get engaged, have a few short months to plan a wedding and have absolutely no idea what your options are. While a wedding isn’t the most important day of your life, it is one of the major events and it should be what you dreamed of.
Not only that, but research and pre-planning can save you a lot of grief in the end. If you have an idea of what you like, and what it costs, you have time to save and research cheaper options so that you can have the wedding of your dreams without going into major debt.
I’m sure you will also think I’m crazy because I have been happily married for 17 years, and I have a wedding board on pintrest :0p I don’t plan on ever having another wedding, but I think weddings are beautiful, happy occasions and I enjoy looking at wedding things.
Ruth Rutherford said:
I don’t know if I completely agree. Weddings are a lot of work, yes… but I don’t think that means I have to start planning now. I want babies, too… should I start researching college bonds, diapers and breast pumps? I guess I just wish single ladies (like myself!) could just enjoy the season we’re in now. Because when the other seasons of marriage and family come, we may regret not having fully lived in the moment now. That’s all I’m trying to say…
Hey! I never called you crazy!!! I just said that’s how it might APPEAR when a single girl has every detail of her wedding planned before even meeting her future husband. MIGHT come across as desperate to some. Trust me, the Australian news didn’t cover Anita’s story because it was newsworthy. They covered it because it was funny.
17 years? Sigh. That’s beautiful. Okay, fine — you earned your wedding board! Enjoy it!!!
Shellie said:
I think a huge issue is Pinterest creating discontent, unrealistic expectations, covetousness, need I go on? If your Daddy has deep pockets maybe it’s a good way to plan?? But otherwise, do you people really wanna be Bridezilla over their “real” wedding. I cannot imagine the pressure these brides are under to make every last inch of everything CUTE. I did a plain jane $600 wedding (free church, free backyard reception, cake and punch only wedding) and was stressed out of my gourd. I didn’t know what a wedding planner was & couldn’t afford one if I had and had a Mom and MIL who don’t plan events. The circles under my eyes were black by my wedding day just trying to get dried flower bouquets together and the bridesmaids to cooperate! Nothing adorable happened, but we are making it by the grace of God 23 years later!
RCG
PS One regret-I walked into the wedding shop, found THE perfect dress (candlelight….not ivory, not white….perfect fit, toulle with lace appliques). It was $800 and I thought too much. I did not ask my Dad to buy it. A dear friend made me a simple dress which I treasured, but it was boring. A year later, I walked back in the wedding shop and will you believe that My Dress was still there on the sale rack. I do think it was Mine and always will. Meaningless trivia, but I wish I had asked my Daddy for the dress.
Ruth Rutherford said:
Even simple weddings can be a lot of work to put together. The pressure! Your backyard wedding sounds fun, though. I’d have loved it! Congrats on 23 years. That’s a huge accomplishment. You should be proud!
The dress! That breaks my heart. $800 was pretty expensive 23 years ago, though. I bet it seemed like a lot to ask your dad for.
Amy said:
At a Bible study this week, we were talking about the fact that a marriage is actually a picture of the relationship between Christ and the Church. I wonder how many weddings are planned around that thought? I know mine wasn’t! What’s even more beautiful that a lovely wedding is a Christ-honoring marriage or Christ-honoring singleness. Loved the post!
Ruth Rutherford said:
Thanks, Amy! What a great reminder… so often forgotten. (By yours truly, too!) Love the Christ-honoring singleness part. That is important too!
Mrs. A said:
Actually I really wish I HAD spent some time planning a wedding, because when I met the man of my dreams, we got married less than 6 months after getting engaged. Thinking about all the ‘details’ for the very very first time within that time frame was hugely stressful, (I HATE making decisions) and there are a lot of things I’d have done differently, if I’d ever bothered to think about it. (Receiving line, anyone? Oops. Missed that part.) So yeah. You could not PAY me to go through a wedding again. Love being married, though, so hey!
Ruth Rutherford said:
Ha! Receiving lines are overrated. They’re so awkward! You seem like you have a great attitude about it all, though. Refreshing!
I think short engagements are the way to go. If you know you want to marry someone, why wait? I don’t really understand these 2-year+ engagements. I would go nuts!
Katana Leigh said:
Yeah, if anyone wants to make and bring ALL THEIR PLANS to my wedding party on the 26th, that would be great. I found out today that my bridesmaids are one orange and one teal … sounds good to me. HA. please show up and eat food, is all i ask .
Ruth Rutherford said:
Wait, what? Your bridesmaids are just choosing what to wear? That is hilarious. You actually seem like a fun, laid back bride! Nothing will match at your wedding, but WHO CARES! Ha ha.
CONGRATS! God’s blessings on your marriage!
teresa said:
Anita should check out this site
http://goodwomenonly.com/ – a guy looking for a good woman to marry. I don’t think he has set a date yet 
Ruth Rutherford said:
Hahaha! This is awesome! Apparently he’s got a BOOK on the subject. He’s pretty cute, actually. Um… Teresa… why did you recommend him for Anita and not ME?!
No, seriously, I need to send Anita this link. She’ll track this guy down in a nano-second.
Shellie said:
But please don’t include your husband in the planning, unless A. You want to hate your wedding stuff later (not that it really matters!), B. Bore him to death or C. He’s all artsy like a straight Nate. Really, most men enjoy this stuff as much as a day shopping which is what it is only it takes weeks or months of it. I still do not like my wedding invitations. I wanted simple white embossed invites and he chose irises. And he was bored choosing them, ie they didn’t really matter to him so why am I asking him?! And I do agree Pinterest weddings/modern weddings are weirding me out. (The Funeral Page says it all!) I couldn’t quite put my finger on why weddings that look so right feel so wrong. You articulated some of what I am feeling. A wedding is not a 20k scrapbook page, it’s a covenant.
RubberChickenGirl
Ruth Rutherford said:
This one had me laughing out loud. You sound like such fun! It’s probably true that men don’t like choosing which flowers go with which dresses. Yawn! But it’s still his wedding too. Giving him the opportunity to engage only seems fair, right?
Love this quote! “A wedding is not a $20k scrapbook page. It’s a covenant.”
Thanks for reading!
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Laura O said:
I want to thank you for this post. I think it is true, that in our culture we often spend more time, energy, and attention on the wedding than the marriage. Of course, that is not God’s way. I do have such a board on Pinterest and though it is less “planning” then a nice collection of quotes and pictures on marriage, your post has caused me to think deeply. Thank you.
Smitty said:
No way! I’ve heard of planning in advance from picking out the venue, food, even selecting the women’s engagement rings and the men’s tungsten wedding bandwomen’s engagement rings and the men’s tungsten wedding bands before the wedding…. but the groom?! Too funny.